I just spent an hour reading a fellow blogger’s blog. I’m in a Starbucks (as always) and I am laughing like a lunatic. I’m waiting for the barista to ask me to leave. I was reading all about her ex’s problems and how crazy this guy is basically making her. Why are men so mean? Like seriously. How come a man can no longer be honest about what he wants? Why does this guy make my girl so miserable with his lies and his random impulses to come over and “use her scanner” (this guy has a girlfriend BTW)? I’ll tell you why.
He’s not a real man.
Yup. It’s that simple. This guy is using my girl and she hasn’t realized it yet. Well…maybe she has, but she isn’t wanting to see this. Ladies…why do we do this to ourselves? Let’s back up for a second. If you’ve been reading my blog (which i hope you do because I love sharing my chaotic life with you), you all know that I have attempted several times to make things work with my ex. Although I haven’t posted every detail about our encounters or our dinner dates, just know that at the end of the day….I always felt used. In my heart, I knew I wanted him so bad, but my mind knew it was over. So technically, I was the fool. I tried to convince myself that it might work out when I already knew it never would. It wasn’t that I was lonely or longed for someone’s comfort because honestly…that was the whole point of my Happiness Project…to grow as an individual. And he was only holding me back. I love him to death and he is a great guy, but he is not the great guy for me.
A real man will never leave your side. For anyone or anything. Eventually, I will find that right person…but until then…I’m enjoying the friendship I have going on with Mr. Asks for my number in traffic : ) : )