I just spent an hour reading a fellow blogger’s blog. I’m in a Starbucks (as always) and I am laughing like a lunatic. I’m waiting for the barista to ask me to leave. I was reading all about her ex’s problems and how crazy this guy is basically making her. Why are men so mean? Like seriously. How come a man can no longer be honest about what he wants? Why does this guy make my girl so miserable with his lies and his random impulses to come over and “use her scanner” (this guy has a girlfriend BTW)? I’ll tell you why.
He’s not a real man.
Yup. It’s that simple. This guy is using my girl and she hasn’t realized it yet. Well…maybe she has, but she isn’t wanting to see this. Ladies…why do we do this to ourselves? Let’s back up for a second. If you’ve been reading my blog (which i hope you do because I love sharing my chaotic life with you), you all know that I have attempted several times to make things work with my ex. Although I haven’t posted every detail about our encounters or our dinner dates, just know that at the end of the day….I always felt used. In my heart, I knew I wanted him so bad, but my mind knew it was over. So technically, I was the fool. I tried to convince myself that it might work out when I already knew it never would. It wasn’t that I was lonely or longed for someone’s comfort because honestly…that was the whole point of my Happiness Project…to grow as an individual. And he was only holding me back. I love him to death and he is a great guy, but he is not the great guy for me.
A real man will never leave your side. For anyone or anything. Eventually, I will find that right person…but until then…I’m enjoying the friendship I have going on with Mr. Asks for my number in traffic : ) : )
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I know – convincing ourselves that we can work it out never really works out too well when it’s just not working!
very true. idk y we lie to ourselves. thank you for reading : )
Hey that’s ME you’re talking about! lol And I’m crying right now already- not cool! haha But you’re right. I am TERRIBLE at letting go. That’s why it took me a year to get over a 6-month relationship. I’m not ready to admit it yet that Jake is a user. Every girl wants to believe she is the “exception to the rule.” I guess he’s going to have to hurt me a lot worse for me to officially see the light. :-/
OMG my love i hope you are not mad : ( i just care about your feelings! you are too good for any of this
Of course not, girl! I know all that you said. Well, kind of. I have to find out for myself. Like I said in today’s blog- I am just now getting a bad feeling about things. Ugh. I’m gonna be a nun. lol
And you’re right- he’s NOT a real man! The fact that he’s six years younger than I am should have been a clue long before this crap started a year ago! lol
When did women become experts on real men? It seem accord to most women all men are users, cheaters, and dogs. Wouldn’t that be considered a real man? Honest, hahahaha an honest man is called an asshole because he is honest at all times not just when its suit his partner. I would love to video tape these relationships so y’all can see they are probably not as one-sided as y’all think. It seem like each woman knows the type of man they are dealing with but choose to ignore it. Tell me again, how are the men the blame for this? I guess they are supposed to leave a relationship they are happy with; shouldn’t the unhappy party walk away? Do women really think they aren’t cheating holding on to a men, they are waiting for the strength to leave????
I’ve never been an expert. i think men feel the same way about women (cheaters, sluts, etc). yeah you’re right tho…if a man is honest…..they are usually considered assholes…BUT there comes a point in your life when you HAVE to realize that honesty is GOOD. you made a valid point my dear : ) thanks for sharing!
Keep sharing….it’s your type of openness and heartfelt post that encourage others to open up. We should always connect hearts by sharing our souls!!!!
Yes I very much no how this goes as well. My ex only talks to me when he wants me to do something for him. I keep telling myself I need to set him straight and move on but I keep wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt. Stupid ha?